Love is in the Stars
First-born, middle child or baby of the family?
The order in which you are born may influence your relationships in more ways than
Ever heard that old wives' tale about how your birthdate
could determine your destiny? As superstitious as it sounds, when it comes to romance,
this geomancy may actually be truer than ﬁction. According to studies by psychologists,
the order in which a person is born is closely tied to their personality. And this
cultivated personality may in turn inﬂuence their romantic relationships.
Personality traits are swayed by a number of life experiences,
including parental attention, responsibilities and social learning. To test if people
with similar birth orders do indeed possess similar personality traits, psychologists
Emily McGuirk and Terry Pettijohn II carried out a controlled experiment with 100
test subjects. The study found that 83 percent of people were attracted to a partner
of the same birth order because they had similar personalities.
But will dating someone of the same birth order be
a deciding factor for true love? Not always, according to psychologist Linda
Blair in her book, Birth Order: What Your Position In The Family Really Tells You
About Your Character. Check out her ﬁndings below:
Firstborn and Middle Child
Firstborns tend to be natural leaders, perhaps due
to the need to assume greater responsibility early on in life. Conversely, middle
children are usually problem solvers as they are often positioned as the mediator
between their older and younger siblings. A relationship between these two types
could help to balance the values of negotiation and compromise.
Firstborn and the Youngest
The relationship will probably be well balanced because
the ﬁrstborn’s sense of responsibility will help to keep the other person
in check. Meanwhile, the partner who is youngest in his or her family will be able
to inject some fun and relaxation into their other half’s life.
Firstborn and Only Child
An only child usually takes a little more time to pick
up on emotional cues. This is due in large part to their having led an independent
lifestyle. Results show that there might be instances of slight misunderstanding
since ﬁrstborns tend to be more private with their feelings. Adequate communication
between both would result in a healthier relationship.
Middle Child and the Youngest
The youngest in the family tends to be a little more
free-spirited and carefree and will likely inﬂuence middle children by injecting
some spontaneity in their lives. Since the middle child often has a stronger sense
of structure, with some level of negotiation both individuals will be able to share
a fun relationship without veering too far from the straight and narrow.
This article was first published on DUET magazine.