5 Signs that Someone is into You
How to tell if your eye candy is eyeing you up — or the
candy bar behind you
Courtship rituals might seem like hocus pocus claptrap thought up by
dating coaches. Yet science has shown evidence to the contrary. Research indicates
that we exhibit these five basic patterns when we meet a potential romantic partner.
So if you are desperately trying to figure out if someone thinks of you as more
than a friend, here is your chance.
The first stage of the courtship process is flirting — the human
equivalent of a peacock displaying its tail feathers. Research shows that basic
flirting is an instinctive behaviour that occurs when a person is attracted to someone.
So, how do you tell if someone is flirting with you? Women tend to flirt
with their eyes and heads. Conversely, men exaggerate their height and thrust out
their chests. A clear sign of interest between both sexes is the copulatory gaze,
which usually lasts for two to three seconds at a time. Other behavioural traits
include smiling, fidgeting and over-emphasised movements.
This is where an interested party engages in deep eye contact and physical
proximity, which indicates interest. A study by the University of California, Berkeley
revealed that postural expansiveness, or outstretched limbs and torsos, convey a
person’s willingness to share their space with a love interest. So the next
time you notice a potential partner cosying up to you, it could be that they have
feelings for you too!
The grooming talk — usually social banter — is a critical
courtship stage and is used to mine for information about a love interest. These
talks tend to be dealbreakers as they reveal a great deal about a person, such as
their background and interests.
Don’t mistake all conversations for grooming talks, though! There
are a few ways to determine if a talk is more than the average tête-à-tête.
The interested party’s voice usually becomes higher, softer and more melodic,
with many raising their vocal register by nearly an entire octave.
Ever experienced fireworks going off in your stomach when a certain someone
brushes past you? Chances are that he or she might be interested in you, too. The
fourth stage of courtship involves a series of non-verbal cues related to the way
Actions such as leaning forward, resting an arm near yours or moving
their feet closer to you are all common cues of interest. At some point, the person
might even gather enough courage to touch you in a socially acceptable way. This
could be in the form of a quick hand squeeze or a light touch on the arm.
Have you noticed how those closest to you can predict your next relationship
before it even happens? No, they are not telepathic — just observant. Attracted
individuals tend to synchronise their movements subconsciously after some time.
Often, the pair remains unaware of this but it is clear and obvious to
observers. One of the most obvious actions is lifting your drinks at the same time.
The next time you meet a special someone for cocktails, keep a lookout for possible
mirrored actions. Who knows? You just might make a delightful discovery!
This article was first published on DUET magazine.